“Why are you getting rid of all your clothes? What happens if you gain some weight back?”
“A personal trainer is so expensive…and what about all the gas driving over there?”
“You don’t want to lose too much weight now.”
“Are you going to get obsessed with it?”
“You’re not starving yourself are you?”
Those are just some of the things people will say to try and sabotage your weight loss…and those things have actually been said to me. I heard it 2 years ago when I first began my journey and I’m hearing it again. It’s truly sad that people who are intimidated or jealous of someone’s weight loss feel the need to say these things in hopes that they will fail. Well I got news for ya honey, I didn’t fail 2 years ago, and I’m not gonna fail now!
No one needs saboteurs, especially those trying to lose weight. Sometimes it is a conscious move on their part, sometimes it may not be, to which I say they know deep down what they are doing. Period. So who are saboteurs? They come in all forms, but generally are those that are closest to you. They are your family (spouse, parents, siblings, inlaws, etc), your closest friends, your co-workers. They are the ones who are insecure about their own weight struggles. They may find it intimidating that you have either lost weight or have just started your journey. They may feel threatened by your weight loss or new appearance.
Different types of saboteurs.
You have those who try to compete with you. Now I’m as competitive as they come and I don’t see anything wrong with a little healthy weight loss competition. I’m talking about those who try to one up you each time. Say you lost 2 lbs last week, they will make their goal to lose 3 lbs just to one up you. Or saying you are super proud you ran that first mile, they will run 2 just to out do you. These types don’t want you to end up looking better than them. I’m going to tell you right now, I could care less if someone loses more weight than me or can run more miles. I am focused on myself and my progress. Period.
You have the “pusher.” No, I’m not talking about pushing drugs, lol, I’m talking about those who try to push high fat, high calorie, unhealthy foods on you. “You eat healthy all the time, can’t you just live a little?” Who says I’m not living while eating healthy? If anything I’m living a better, healthier life than they are. I also don’t deprive myself, but I know not to over do it. Yes I do have my days where I completely mess up, this past weekend was one of them, but I move on and try to do better.
Then you have the naysayers. You know, the ones who try to talk down about your diet, fitness regimen, etc. For example, I posted a month ago on Facebook something that I was going to try along with a pic of it. The backlash of comments I received was enough to irritate the you know what out of me so I ended up deleting the pic all together. People thinking they are right or know best. I don’t need that kind of judgmental negativity in my life.
So how do we deal? First realize it’s not about you, usually. It’s about their own insecurities and struggles. They may compare themselves to you which causes them to subconsciously or not try to bring you down with them. If you are suddenly losing weight and they see your confidence grow it could affect their own ego. My advice? Take a stand. Beginning a weight loss journey is hard in itself. Surround yourself with only positive influences and people who will support you. I’m not saying cut ties with your friends and family, just limit your time with them if they are trying to hurt your efforts instead of help them. You can also lose the weight, get super fit, and keep it off…that will shut them up! Sometimes they end up being our biggest motivators! 😉
And for the love of losing weight and keeping it off…don’t send sweets to my house and say it’s for the kids…..it will go straight to the trash! 🙂
What are your thoughts on this? Have you been the target of saboteurs while trying to lose weight? If so, how do you deal with them?
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